Overcoming Covert Male Depression

“For the covertly depressed man, what lies at the center of the defense or addiction is the disowned overt depression he has run from. And in the center of the overt depression lies trauma. For some men the underlying injuries are blatant and extreme. For others, they are seemingly mild, even ordinary. And yet, for … Continue reading Overcoming Covert Male Depression

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Gender and Shame: “Women’s Language,” “Feelings of Inadequacy,” and Female Subjectivity

“Textbooks on the psychology of women tend to confirm the everyday observation that women are in general less assertive than men, have lower self-esteem, less overall confidence, and poorer self-concepts.[Note 24] Certainly, everyone understand how painful it is to have low-self-esteem or too little confidence. Let us pursue this: What, precisely, is the character of … Continue reading Gender and Shame: “Women’s Language,” “Feelings of Inadequacy,” and Female Subjectivity

Sartre on “Non-Violence”

“Try to understand this at any rate: if violence began this very evening and if exploitation and oppression had never existed on the earth, perhaps the slogans of non-violence might end the quarrel. But if the whole regime, even your non-violent ideas, are conditioned by a thousand-year-old oppression, your passivity serves only to place you … Continue reading Sartre on “Non-Violence”

Understanding American Anger

“White men’s anger is “real”--that is, it is experienced deeply and sincerely. But it is not “true”--that is, it doesn’t provide an accurate analysis of their situation. The “enemies” of white American men are not really women and men of color. Our enemy is an ideology of masculinity that we inherited from our fathers, and … Continue reading Understanding American Anger

Marcuse on “Non-Violence”

“Even in the advanced centers of civilization, violence actually prevails: it is practiced by the police, in the prisons and mental institutions, in the fight against racial minorities; it is carried, by the defenders of metropolitan freedom, into the backward countries. This violence indeed breeds violence. But to refrain from violence in the face of … Continue reading Marcuse on “Non-Violence”

Christmas and Subjective Well-Being

“[...] Respondents surveyed in the period shortly before or at the Christmas holidays generally report lower life satisfaction and lower emotional well-being compared to respondents whose interview took place outside of the Christmas period. [...] In this perspective reduced SWB [subjective well-being] at Christmas is a result of perceived time pressure, social obligations and, maybe, financial … Continue reading Christmas and Subjective Well-Being

Final Serenity

“After so long a life one quite loses the capacity to distinguish who has done what harm to whom. In the abstract conception of universal wrong, all concrete responsibility vanishes. The blackguard presents himself as victim of injustice; if only you knew, young man, what life is like. But those conspicuous midway through life by … Continue reading Final Serenity

Repressive Tolerance: Truth and Falsehood

“Within the affluent democracy, […] All points of view can be heard […]. Moreover, in endlessly dragging debates over the media, the stupid opinion is treated with the same respect as the intelligent one, the misinformed may talk as long as the informed, and propaganda rides along with education, truth with falsehood. This pure tolerance … Continue reading Repressive Tolerance: Truth and Falsehood

Countryside

“The shortcoming of the American landscape is not so much, as romantic illusion would have it, the absence of historical memories, as that it bears no traces of the human hand. This applies not only to the lack of arable land, the uncultivated woods often no higher than scrub, but above all to the roads. … Continue reading Countryside

The Triad of Men’s Violence: Men’s Violence Against Women

“Within relationships, forms of male violence such as rape, battering, and what Meg Luxton calls the “petty tyranny” of male domination in the household [1] must be understood both “in terms of violence directed against women as women and against women as wives.”[2] The family provides an arena for the expression of needs and emotions … Continue reading The Triad of Men’s Violence: Men’s Violence Against Women