Gloria Steinem, Preface to “Women Respond to the Men’s Movement”

“Make no mistake about it: Women want a men’s movement. We are literally dying for it. If you doubt that, just listen to women’s desperate testimonies of hope that the men in our lives will become more nurturing toward children, more able to talk about emotions, less hooked on a spectrum of control that extends … Continue reading Gloria Steinem, Preface to “Women Respond to the Men’s Movement”

Social production of moral invisibility

“So far we have tried to reconstruct the social mechanism of ‘overcoming the animal pity’; a social production of conduct contrary to innate moral inhibitions, capable of transforming individuals who are not ‘moral degenerates’ in any of the ‘normal’ senses, into murderers or conscious collaborators in the murdering process. The experience of the Holocaust brings … Continue reading Social production of moral invisibility

The “Shame Cycle”: Addiction and Depression in Covertly Depressed Men

“With each new failure, my father became more bellicose and dismissive. And as his attitude worsened, he found it ever more difficult to succeed. The defenses one chooses to avoid shame often afford relief while breeding more shame. Addiction experts have termed this pattern a “shame cycle.” The covertly depressed man’s defensive maneuvers or addictions … Continue reading The “Shame Cycle”: Addiction and Depression in Covertly Depressed Men

Batterers, Abandonment, and Love Addiction: Jimmy’s Story

“Jimmy, like most of the male batterers I have encountered, suffered from both forms of addictive intoxication: the need for merger with an abundant other and the need to wrestle nature, as represented by his wife, into submission. Shirley helped me see the connection between the two forms of intoxication in a couple’s therapy session … Continue reading Batterers, Abandonment, and Love Addiction: Jimmy’s Story

“the ties that bind are also those that rip people apart”

[SPOILERS.] [From the film August: Osage County, one of my favorite films.] [SPOILERS.] “Not even Jean, Bill and Barbara’s teenage daughter, is safe from her grandmother’s foul mouth. Moreover, as the young girl declares her preference for vegetarian food over the funeral dinner, saying that she refuses to ingest the butchered animal’s fear, the whole … Continue reading “the ties that bind are also those that rip people apart”