“His voice quavering, the young man stammered something [...] about how women can be as insensitive and hurtful as guys. He sounded like a victim himself. But afterward, when I asked him if he had reached out to any of his guy friends for advice or solace, he stared at me, incredulous, his irises two … Continue reading Teaching Men to Be Emotionally Honest
“So how does this discussion help us to make sense of women faking orgasm? We have argued that what is demanded of women in the technique/work narrative is proof of the value of the man’s work, of the soundness of his technique. Thus, women are expected to experience orgasm. But part of the “problem” with … Continue reading Faking It
Before I was married, I truly lived the bachelor’s life. I’m no Wilt Chamberlain, but as I traveled around NBA cities, I was never at a loss for female companionship. . . . There were just some bachelors almost every woman in L.A. wanted to be with: Eddie Murphy, Arsenio Hall, and Magic Johnson. I … Continue reading Visualizing Deviance: The Promiscuous (Heterosexual World of Sport)
[I]n an ideological world . . . words rarely have unambiguous meanings, where notions are inexact, and have political value precisely because they are inexact and hence capable of suggesting a range of possible interpretations . . . . [T]his inexact world . . . of dreams and illusions . . . rules established values … Continue reading In an ideological world . . .
“It is not possible to endure repeated physical attack, to sustain repeated injuries, and to live in an atmosphere of fear of repeat victimization without experiencing anxiety and emotional tension. While the long-term effects of violence and permanent emotional damage cannot be assumed, there can be little doubt that such an atmosphere causes considerable stress, … Continue reading Men Talking About Violence. Effects of Violence: Emotional Effects
“The individualism built into IGB [It Gets Better] and the lack of structural critique makes problematic social class narratives particularly likely. Social class is fundamental to IGB because one of the primary ways in the US for LGBT people to document how they have improved their lives is through extensive descriptions of personal and financial … Continue reading “One Day I’m Going to be Really Successful”: The Social Class Politics of Videos Made for the “It Gets Better” Anti-Gay Bullying Project
“It was clear from the accounts provided that there was a widespread reluctance to seek help (or to be seen to be seeking help) as such behaviour was seen as challenging to conventional notions of masculinity. This was particularly evident amongst the younger participants who adhered to a model of masculinity that men who had … Continue reading Men’s Accounts of Masculinity and Help Seeking
[SPOILERS.] [From the film August: Osage County, one of my favorite films.] [SPOILERS.] “Not even Jean, Bill and Barbara’s teenage daughter, is safe from her grandmother’s foul mouth. Moreover, as the young girl declares her preference for vegetarian food over the funeral dinner, saying that she refuses to ingest the butchered animal’s fear, the whole … Continue reading “the ties that bind are also those that rip people apart”
“The hero’s rebellion is henceforth a predictable turn toward “meaningfulness” and away from “money,” the underlying premise being that the luxury of finding an individual “self” through denial and renunciation is always open to those wealthy enough to choose, and sly enough to present themselves sympathetically as a rebel.” Pp. 264-265 in Munt, Sally R. 2006. “A … Continue reading “Rebellion”?
“[...] Respondents surveyed in the period shortly before or at the Christmas holidays generally report lower life satisfaction and lower emotional well-being compared to respondents whose interview took place outside of the Christmas period. [...] In this perspective reduced SWB [subjective well-being] at Christmas is a result of perceived time pressure, social obligations and, maybe, financial … Continue reading Christmas and Subjective Well-Being