Gloria Steinem, Preface to “Women Respond to the Men’s Movement”

“Make no mistake about it: Women want a men’s movement. We are literally dying for it. If you doubt that, just listen to women’s desperate testimonies of hope that the men in our lives will become more nurturing toward children, more able to talk about emotions, less hooked on a spectrum of control that extends … Continue reading Gloria Steinem, Preface to “Women Respond to the Men’s Movement”

Touch Therapy / Talk Therapy: Intimate Labor and Nurturing Femininity

“A common convention among women I interviewed was that some clients come to the dungeon for the intimate though not necessarily erotic, skin-on-skin experiences that they are lacking in their private lives. One pro-domme spoke to this phenomenon, as well as to the idea of the displacement of complicit masculinity in the dungeon, when she … Continue reading Touch Therapy / Talk Therapy: Intimate Labor and Nurturing Femininity

Christmas and Subjective Well-Being

“[...] Respondents surveyed in the period shortly before or at the Christmas holidays generally report lower life satisfaction and lower emotional well-being compared to respondents whose interview took place outside of the Christmas period. [...] In this perspective reduced SWB [subjective well-being] at Christmas is a result of perceived time pressure, social obligations and, maybe, financial … Continue reading Christmas and Subjective Well-Being

The Approach-Avoidance Dance, Excerpt from Intimate Strangers: Men and Women Together by Lillian B. Rubin

“Intimacy. We hunger for it, but we also fear it. We come close to a loved one, then we back off. A teacher I had once described this as the “go away a little closer” message. I call it the approach-avoidance dance. The conventional wisdom says that women want intimacy, men resist it. And I … Continue reading The Approach-Avoidance Dance, Excerpt from Intimate Strangers: Men and Women Together by Lillian B. Rubin