… the more masculinity asserts itself, the more it calls itself into question.

“The closer we come to uncovering some form of exemplary masculinity, a masculinity which is solid and sure of itself, the clearer it becomes that masculinity is structured through contradiction: the more it asserts itself, the more it calls itself into question.” Segal, Lynne. 1990. Slow Motion: Changing Masculinities, Changing Men. New Brunswick, NJ: Rutgers … Continue reading … the more masculinity asserts itself, the more it calls itself into question.

Men at Bay: The ‘Men’s Movement’ and Its Newest Best-Sellers

“Therapy of course has value for dealing with situations of crisis and despair. In less dramatic situations it often helps with sheer survival. But to transform emotional relationships, and a complex emotional structure like ‘masculinity,’ is inherently a collective project not an individual one. It must involve large numbers of people; it must deal with … Continue reading Men at Bay: The ‘Men’s Movement’ and Its Newest Best-Sellers

Combatting Toxic Masculinity In Our Schools – Un-Teaching Gender Stereotypes For Boys

"All of this matters. All of these subtle and not-so-subtle messages are how we teach masculinity and femininity to children. It is important to remember that there is no biological reason why boys should not play with dolls or wear dresses. There is no biological reason for boys to like cars or diggers. There is … Continue reading Combatting Toxic Masculinity In Our Schools – Un-Teaching Gender Stereotypes For Boys

The Language of Gender Violence, Jackson Katz

“[Men and masculinity] have been rendered invisible in much of the discourse. Dominant groups often go unchallenged in society, and their power and privilege goes unexamined. [Gender violence issues] affect women at every level, but I am here to say that the very fact of just calling these issues ‘women’s issues’ is in itself part of … Continue reading The Language of Gender Violence, Jackson Katz

Boys and Their Toys

Contemporary self-making often requires dramatic reinvention. Left: A shy midwesterner, Marion Michael Morrison, transformed himself into John Wayne, the most readily identifiable masculine icon of the decades following World War II. (Publicity photography) Bottom: And President George W. Bush, son and grandson of aristocratic New England bluebloods, who repped at Andover, graduated from Yale and … Continue reading Boys and Their Toys

Men Talking About Violence. Effects of Violence: Emotional Effects

“It is not possible to endure repeated physical attack, to sustain repeated injuries, and to live in an atmosphere of fear of repeat victimization without experiencing anxiety and emotional tension. While the long-term effects of violence and permanent emotional damage cannot be assumed, there can be little doubt that such an atmosphere causes considerable stress, … Continue reading Men Talking About Violence. Effects of Violence: Emotional Effects

Gloria Steinem, Preface to “Women Respond to the Men’s Movement”

“Make no mistake about it: Women want a men’s movement. We are literally dying for it. If you doubt that, just listen to women’s desperate testimonies of hope that the men in our lives will become more nurturing toward children, more able to talk about emotions, less hooked on a spectrum of control that extends … Continue reading Gloria Steinem, Preface to “Women Respond to the Men’s Movement”

Batterers, Abandonment, and Love Addiction: Jimmy’s Story

“Jimmy, like most of the male batterers I have encountered, suffered from both forms of addictive intoxication: the need for merger with an abundant other and the need to wrestle nature, as represented by his wife, into submission. Shirley helped me see the connection between the two forms of intoxication in a couple’s therapy session … Continue reading Batterers, Abandonment, and Love Addiction: Jimmy’s Story