The Language of Gender Violence, Jackson Katz

“[Men and masculinity] have been rendered invisible in much of the discourse. Dominant groups often go unchallenged in society, and their power and privilege goes unexamined. [Gender violence issues] affect women at every level, but I am here to say that the very fact of just calling these issues ‘women’s issues’ is in itself part of … Continue reading The Language of Gender Violence, Jackson Katz

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Mike Riggs on “Real Men”

“Some thoughts on macho talk regarding the Montana incident. The idea that real men occasionally hit, and that real men hit back, is bad for men. I say this as someone who was much bigger than other humans starting at around age five, and who used his fist from an early age. I spent many … Continue reading Mike Riggs on “Real Men”

Men Talking About Violence. Effects of Violence: Emotional Effects

“It is not possible to endure repeated physical attack, to sustain repeated injuries, and to live in an atmosphere of fear of repeat victimization without experiencing anxiety and emotional tension. While the long-term effects of violence and permanent emotional damage cannot be assumed, there can be little doubt that such an atmosphere causes considerable stress, … Continue reading Men Talking About Violence. Effects of Violence: Emotional Effects

Batterers, Abandonment, and Love Addiction: Jimmy’s Story

“Jimmy, like most of the male batterers I have encountered, suffered from both forms of addictive intoxication: the need for merger with an abundant other and the need to wrestle nature, as represented by his wife, into submission. Shirley helped me see the connection between the two forms of intoxication in a couple’s therapy session … Continue reading Batterers, Abandonment, and Love Addiction: Jimmy’s Story

Sartre on “Non-Violence”

“Try to understand this at any rate: if violence began this very evening and if exploitation and oppression had never existed on the earth, perhaps the slogans of non-violence might end the quarrel. But if the whole regime, even your non-violent ideas, are conditioned by a thousand-year-old oppression, your passivity serves only to place you … Continue reading Sartre on “Non-Violence”

Marcuse on “Non-Violence”

“Even in the advanced centers of civilization, violence actually prevails: it is practiced by the police, in the prisons and mental institutions, in the fight against racial minorities; it is carried, by the defenders of metropolitan freedom, into the backward countries. This violence indeed breeds violence. But to refrain from violence in the face of … Continue reading Marcuse on “Non-Violence”

The Triad of Men’s Violence: Men’s Violence Against Women

“Within relationships, forms of male violence such as rape, battering, and what Meg Luxton calls the “petty tyranny” of male domination in the household [1] must be understood both “in terms of violence directed against women as women and against women as wives.”[2] The family provides an arena for the expression of needs and emotions … Continue reading The Triad of Men’s Violence: Men’s Violence Against Women

Male Battering of Women as Medicating Covert Depression

“When Jimmy lashed out at Shirley, he was, as one abuse expert terms it, “offending from the victim position.” This is perhaps the most common pattern of male violence toward women. Flooded with depression and feelings of victimization, Jimmy used rage to physiologically pump up his sense of deflation. Research shows that rage simultaneously releases … Continue reading Male Battering of Women as Medicating Covert Depression

Manliness and Violence: From Pierre Bourdieu’s Masculine Domination

“If women, subjected to a labour of socialization which tends to diminish and deny them, learn the negative virtues of self-denial, resignation and silence, men are also prisoners, and insidiously victims, of the dominant representation. ... Being a man ... implies an ought-to be ... which imposes itself in the mode of self-evidence, the taken-for-granted. … Continue reading Manliness and Violence: From Pierre Bourdieu’s Masculine Domination

The Triad of Men’s Violence: Violence Against Oneself

“Aggression is the building of a precarious structure of internalized violence. The continual conscious and unconscious blocking and denial of passivity and all the emotions and feelings men associate with passivity—fear, pain, sadness, embarrassment—is a denial of part of what we are. The constant psychological and behavioral vigilance against passivity and its derivatives is a … Continue reading The Triad of Men’s Violence: Violence Against Oneself